Today was just a really nice day. Nothing major going on, really… but just a nice afternoon with my besties.
See, Venus in retrograde (in Leo/Virgo) is proving to be even rougher on my little pirate crew than Mercury retrograde can sometimes be – and they’re no picnic! But the themes of this Venus retrograde are all about assessing your values and the things in your life that you’re giving value to. (I’m in Part 4 of the Venus retrograde podcast by Robert Ohotto, so I’ve still got a ways to go with all the energies at work over the next 3 months. If you haven’t heard of Robert, you really need to listen to his radio show! He’s fantastik! And his retrograde podcasts have brought so much understanding when life gets hella crazy.) There has definitely been a lot of that going on and it hasn’t all been easy-peasy. Things got a little brutal the other night but we took the time the next day to sit down and talk through what was going on and I feel like we really heard each other this time.
It can be scary to let down your carefully crafted defenses, even with those you love. Especially if you’ve spent a long time cultivating those defenses.. I am grateful to have friends who love each other enough to come back to the minefield and have a real, deep conversation. Sometimes life gets away with you and you forget that you have to be gentle with each other. Yes, it is a beautifull and authentic friendship with you can be honest with each other, lucky not to have to play mind games or walk on eggshells because you might say the wrong thing. But you have to be careful. That authenticity can start to take on something more like “brutal honesty” where saying your piece is all that matters, even if it can cause serious damage to your loved ones. We must remember that honesty is so important, but people are fragile and easily breakable. You don’t have to use kid gloves, but you need to practice awareness with your words.
Is your honest thought necessary to speak?
Is it possible that your words could do more harm than good to your loved ones spirit?
Where is your honesty coming from? Is it really authentic, or is it coming from a wounded place in you?
Sometimes we tell ourselves that we’re being honest when in reality we are being vindictive because we feel that we have been wronged or ignored somehow. We need to be vulnerable enough to say when we are hurt, when we are lonely and feeling ignored. Maybe then we can have more space for someone else’s pain because ours has been heard.
I am grateful for my friends, my pirate crew, my family. My nakama. I am grateful that we were able to be honest and kind and gentle with each others pain. I am grateful for the beautifull afternoon that we got to spend together. I am grateful for what felt like rewards from the Universe for making important and difficult choices about our values.
We traded in some old books we didn’t want anymore and Half Price Books gave us enough that all the books we wanted were basically free, and we had a little leftover for snacks. We discovered Fresh Thyme, which is similar to a Whole Foods. They had the most amazing deli sandwiches and build-you-own-pizza. We sat in their cute little hidden lunch area and just enjoyed the sunshine streaming in through the windows and the music playing along with our conversation. They also had cupcakes from Sweet Ali’s Bakery, which are heaven.
Like I said, it was just a really nice afternoon with a sunshiney drive and beloved friends.
What has Venus retrograde been doing in your life? Has it been bringing up values for assessment? Maybe showing your places in your life where you or your gifts are being undervalued?